She was old now.
Which means she was younger then.
Of all the people who passed through her life, there were two who brought her the most joy and damage. A man and a woman.
Joy and damage often come hand in hand, sometimes alone.
He was a big man, everything about him was big, his hands his feet , everything.
She was not big, never big as she grew and now.
What he told her was that she was not a man.
What she told her was she was a woman.